
Celebration for the Joy of It!
"Oh world, I cannot hold thee close enough!"
- Edna St. Vincent Millay
"No stair is steep to happy feet!"
- Mary F. Robinson
"Happiness is the only sanction of life; where happiness fails, existence
remains a mad lamentable experiment."
- George Santayana Let us, that is, let us choose joy this morning. It will empower us to go
on, to fight the good fights we are called to, to offer the succor and balm
we must give.
"Oh World! I cannot hold thee close enough!"
Edna St. Vincent-Millay's words ring with joy from a heart bursting with the
gladness of life. And the words of Paul Wollner, a lesser known poet shared
a similar ecstasy writing at age seven. He called it, I Love the World: "I
love you, Big World. / I wish I could call you / And tell you a secret: /
That I love you, World."
It has ever been thus. The hearts of human beings have flooded with delight
at the world, at being alive. Thirty-five hundred years ago, in the
Sanskrit Vedantic literature, the Kena-Upanishads, there is this passage
that refers to an "IT," the fundamental creative ground of all existence,
the Brahman - the vital element that IS life, living. The passage speaks of
how we respond to IT . . . how our expressive response sounds when we come
face-to-face with IT . . . It, the wild beauty of the universe, alive in all
the vastness of its power and mystery.
Listen, now to this literature from three thousand, five hundred years ago,
the Kena-Upanishad: "This is the way IT is to be illustrated: / When
lightnings have been loosened: / aaaah! / When that has made the eyes to be
closed - / aaaaaah!" That fundamental life force, is something in whose
presence we must exclaim: "Aaaah!" You remember - seeing a new born infant,
perhaps your own, for the first time: "Aaaaaah!"
And then, when the sound of our voice trails away into silence, we can feel
a deep yearning, to be embedded in such a response; to live in such awe, not
just in that brief, ecstatic moment, but for moments extended into hours,
extended, perhaps into our whole life time. Mary Oliver, one of our
greatest nature poets, writes: "Once only, and then in a dream, / I watched
while, secretly / and with the tenderness of any caring woman, / a cow gave
birth / to a red calf, tongued him dry and nursed him / in a warm corner /
of the clear night / in the fragrant grass / in the wild domains / of the
prairie spring, and I asked them, / in my dream I knelt down and asked them
/ to make room for me."
I rewrote one of Oliver's poems, for my Installation Service as settled
minister in Boulder, Colorado, where I served from 1996 to 2000. It brings
the question of our desire for the wild fire of joy, when we are deeply,
truly touched by life, it brings that question into the chalice of religious
community. Her poem was called, A Summer Day. My rewriting is called, A
Sunday Morning (she gave me permission to use my rewriting). Listen:
A Sunday Morning
Who made the world?
The wonderfulness of color, of human contact, of the night sky, of achieving
a hard-won goal, of the glory of the oceans, of realizing the pain is over
and we have come back, once again, to good health . . . all of this touches
us far deep inside, and we ache for its liberation, for it frees us to live
more authentically, more fully, more wisely - both as individuals, and as
members of a living community of care and justice, such as this one.
Within the secure and affirming walls of Unitarian Universalism, what we
plan to do with our one wild and precious religious community is to open
wide the doors of life in which joy has its dwelling. Together, we look
into life and ask it to make room for us. And one of the most important
places and times in which we do that is here on Sunday mornings. Over the
course of a year, of course, we will have sad Sundays, and challenging,
difficult Sundays; we will have Sundays in which we honor those who have
volunteered; Sundays where we ask for your financial support (which is, in
fact, very much needed now); and Sundays in which our intellects are
sharpened by the stone of some vital human issue. Through all our Sundays,
however, I believe, there runs a river of Gladness, of a Happiness with
life, of a Joy that grows even from sorrow.
To Celebrate comes from the Latin, celebratus: to perform a ritual or
ceremony, publicly and formally; to solemnize. Also, to honor or praise,
especially publicly. That is the definition of Celebrate in its transitive
form: we celebrate some one, or something. And we do it by having a party
for them. In its intransitive form, the verb describes us Celebrating
(simply) For The Joy Of It! The wide open, happy joy of it all.
And that is one of the two dynamics of celebration I want to lift up today,
its wide openness. Our smiles are spread wide, just as our arms are. But
we are an intelligent, savvy and compassionate people, and we now know that
because we have historically been mostly white, heterosexual, temporarily
able-bodied and adult, and that our leaders, historically, have been
men - because of all of that defining history, we now know that we need to
be intentional about making sure those of us who do not fit those categories
truly feel at home, are truly at home here. It's why, for instance, you
here at UUCPA are continuing to declare yourselves a Welcoming
Congregation - that is, a congregation that is, in fact, not just intention,
fully welcoming to Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgendered folks. You have
understood that it isn't enough just to say you are welcoming, and to smile
warmly at those who arrive here; you need to do serious, strategic outreach;
you need to continue to examine and to change your patterns of behavior and
your means of communication; you need to continue to hear each others'
stories far more deeply than our culture teaches or allows us; you need to
grow your sensitivity so that the exclusion of anyone is as real to you as
if each of you yourselves were being excluded. The writer Mary Gordon once
said, "We all deserve happiness, or none of us does." And Helen Keller,
that physically challenged savant whose own story has been repressively
sterilized by popular culture (she was a radical Socialist), Helen Keller
said, "No one has a right to consume happiness without producing it."
So there's a wideness to our celebration, a wideness that is inclusive.
There is also, paradoxically, a narrowness. That is, there is a focus. The
focus is on what carries us deeply into life, what engages us ever more
authentically, every more fully. I have a story.
It was written by Paul Gorman in a chapter in the book, Ordinary Magic:
Everyday Life as a Spiritual Path, edited by John Wellwood.
There's a guy up on the roof, right at the edge, with his infant son in his
arms; he's threatening to throw him off and then jump himself.
Homicide-suicide - happens a lot with children. He's been having trouble
with this wife - mother interfering, they lock him out, he's sleeping in the
hallway, and it's gone to the edge. That's where he is, and I'm up there
with him. I'm the final guy in the hostage recovery system we set up in New
York City, which I've been working in for eight years.
Now, if you're not able to see the whole picture - how he's reacting, where
and who your backup forces are, what's on the street, how long it's been
going on, your own past experience, the chance that this is a new kind, and
certainly what's going on inside you from moment to moment - if your can't
hold on to all of that and still be there listening to this guy in a way he
can feel . . . chances are he's gonna' go over the edge. Some one is going
to be killed. We've learned that.
And he's in this very intense, complex public situation. Several of us are
up there - a net in the street below, a lot going on all around. To say
nothing of what's going on in him: this lack of self-esteem and manliness,
feeling pushed around by his family, no work. But I also can recognize this
overriding love he has for his child, who he's convinced would be better off
dead than with those two. Sounds crazy, but it was real to him. So
there's a lot for all of us to take in.
So I'm helping him get a sense, an awareness of everything that's happening,
just so he has the picture of it all. And the more he does, the more he is
opening up to me. Turns out what concerns him most is that there be a
hearing at family court to work out fair custody. He wants a hearing. But
he won't accept a promise from me, or a signed note. He tells us we got to
get a lawyer and have it on legal paper - which we send out a car and find a
local lawyer and get for him. When he feels he's got support from the
system, he hands us the child. At that point we have to jump him, because
we know that's the crucial moment to prevent the suicide. He gets pissed at
me, because we were talking together and now this. And I have to give him
this look of "That's how it all is, kid." Some part of him understands.
Funny thing is, I can't remember much of what I've been saying to people at
the end of these episodes. I'm running very much on intuition from moment
to moment. I've had special training, of course, but that becomes a part of
you, and it's only a part of what you're calling on.
You have to be steady and quiet inside. You have to have a foundation of
belief in the absolute value and beauty of life. You can't get too caught
up in it all. You step back, get as much of the picture as possible, and
you play it moment to moment. That's what I've learned from hundreds of
these situations.
There are some very important spiritual/human principles that Paul Gorman is
making here. Spiritual/human principles that tell us what it means to
deeply experience a maturing spirituality - a growing and developing
humanness. And what it means to celebrate authentically. Let me spell them
out.
You see, in our lives each one of us is that man standing on the edge of
the roof. And each of us is the child he holds in his arms. It may not be
death of our physical body that we face - but when we allow fear and
negative attitudes about ourselves and others to control us, we have
literally thrown ourselves over the edge and killed the truth. What is
crushed on the sidewalk many stories below is the real relationship we can
have with ourselves - with what's truly going on inside of us - and with
other people - who always have their own story, pain, truth, and integrity.
Compassion is born out of trust. Trust is born out of compassion. In
this community, this one you have right here in the Unitarian Universalist
Church of Palo Alto, you are challenged to understand the whole picture of
what is going on around you - you are challenged to live out of that whole
picture, and to share it with one another - so that you can deepen your
lives here - and so that you can live fuller lives, more gracious lives,
more courageous lives, beyond these walls. All of us, me included, must
work to understand that in the whole picture of our lives, sometimes we are
the man on the roof, sometimes we are the child in his arms, sometimes we
are the people in the hostage recovery team, as well as the crowd watching
from the streets below. And often we are all of them at once.
We are working to accept the challenge to understand how to work through
the crises and the problems that we always run into as we deal with other
people in our lives. As we continue to deal with other people, getting
better and better at paying attention to them, and understanding them, and
not running away from them, or trying to control them, we come to realize
that the challenges in our lives are, in fact, a charge.
A charge is like a commandment. It is like a rule that we have to live
by - that we hear inside ourselves. That is just for us. As we learn not
to run away from what's around us, and inside of us, as we learn to pay
attention in a bigger and bigger way, we hear a charge inside ourselves that
we must follow if we want to lead good lives, productive lives, lives that
are fun and deep, intelligent, loving and fully present and celebrative.
To summarize all this, I can say that I know four things about accepting
the charge to live an authentic and maturing spiritual life, which is, in
the end, a life of authentic human celebration:
All of this is to say that the fundamental core of celebration and of living
celebratively is the act of bringing the sacred into full awareness. I'll
end, then, with a poem that is one of the finest statements of seeing and
celebrating the sacred that I know.
Just off the highway to Rochester, Minnesota,
She is black and white,
May each of us, sharing ever more joyous celebration together, break into
the blossoms that will reflect the full celebrative glory of just who we
really are.
Amen. Shalom. Blessed Be.
Namasté.
by Rev. Kurt Kuhwald
September 23, 2001
Palo Alto, CA
I believe that it is fitting that today's service is focused on celebration.
We have spent a week and a half in grief and anger, in despair and
confusion. Let us break free for this moment, this morning. Let us breathe
deeply of different air, the fresh, sweet air of joy. If we do this open
heartedly, and simply, and with humility, we will not do the memory of those
who died a disservice. And what grief remains, and it will remain among us
a long, long time, will assert itself within us and among us in its own time
and way.
Who made the grown folk and the youth?
Who made the children?
This child, I mean, sitting here -
the one who has spun herself out of the pews,
the one who sits here, wiggling, yet so rapt and aware,
who listens with innocent ears and wide light-absorbing eyes.
Now she lifts her face as we speak.
Now she rises, skipping off to class as we sing.
I don't know exactly what it is to worship.
I do know how to sit attentively, how to enter here
into this sacred space, how to open my heart
with all the other hearts, how to let my mind sharpen
with the sometimes passionate, sometimes merciful, words.
It is how I spend this hour.
Tell me, how else shall I worship?
Doesn't every hour of worship end? and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious church?A Blessing
by James Wright
Twilight bounds softly forth on the grass.
And the eyes of those two Indian ponies
Darken with kindness.
They have come gladly out of the willows
To welcome my friend and me.
We step over the barbed wire into the pasture
Where they have been grazing all day, alone.
They ripple tensely, they can hardly contain their happiness
That we have come.
They bow shyly as wet swans. They love each other.
There is no loneliness like theirs.
At home once more,
They begin munching the young tufts of spring in the darkness.
I would like to hold the slenderer one in my arms,
For she has walked over to me
And nuzzled my left hand.
Her mane falls wild on her forehead,
And the light breeze moves me to caress her long ear
That is delicate as the skin over a girl's wrist.
Suddenly I realize
That if I stepped out of my body I would break
Into blossom.